Tuesday, April 21, 2009

The Four Agreements

My dear friend, Pia introduced me to the the Four Agreements this weekend. She lives her life by these four "rules". Four simple and powerful ideas from Mexican author and shamanic healer Don Miguel Ruiz's book The Four Agreements:

1. Be impeccable with your words: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

(This really hit home with me. How often do I speak ill of myself or get caught up in office gossip...too often, I'd say!)

2. Don't take anything personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

(Again, this is a huge one. If someone is having a bad day or not being kind, why do I think they might be mad at me?)

3. Don't make assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

(Well...you know what they say about assuming ~ it makes an ass out of u and me!)


4. Always do your best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

(Et, voila! Just what Mom always told me - just do your best!)

5 comments:

Pam said...

The Four Agreements makes very profound but simple statements about everyday life. How wonderful! Thanks for sharing, it enlightened my day:)

Cezar and Léia said...

Wonderful agreements!Many thanks Dear Nancy for sharing!
Lovely post,and words full of wisdom!
Kind Regards
Léia

joo said...

It's really something to follow, in my case especially second one:(
Thanks for sharing. Lovely photos here. Have a nice day:)

*SparkleMirror* Kiln-Fired Art Studio said...

Very wise advice... thanks for the intro, Nancy. You've got me contemplating, and that always leads to good.

I'm Julia said...

Simple and powerful ideas... we'd be wise to read them every day. Beautiful reminders, Nancy.